Sunday, June 07, 2009

Domestic abuse and the Bible


FACT SHEET: DOMESTIC ABUSE AND THE BIBLE : I wrote this in 2004 for my dating and courtship class i was teaching at my church....



I. Why do people say that the bible supports, Endorses or encourages domestic Abuse?



A. Ignorance: (Mt. 22:29 )

B. Misapplication of Scriptures: Quoting one passage or part of a passage without consulting other parts of the bible that relates to the issue at hand.

C. Taken it for granted; That it is in the bible without searching its passages to see if it is so.

· Unlike the Bereans (Acts 17:11 ) (Mt 22:29 )



D. Pride: (1John 2:116, Pr 3:7, Pr 26:12, 1cor 8:2,Ge 11:4)

E. Culture/Traditions: ( Col 2:8, 16-23)

F. Hatred of God’s word: (Psa 50:17, Isa 5:24 , Isa 30;12, Jer 6:10 )

G. False Prophets/teachers: (Tit 1:10 -12, Jer 50:6, 2T 4:3-4)

H. Self Righteous: (Isa 65;5, Mt 6:5)

I. Selfishness: (Judges 17:6, Mt 15:3,Mk 7:8,Col 2:8,Tit 1;14,1Pe 1:18)





II. What does the bible teach about women?



1. Created equally in the image of God: (Gen 1:27 , Gal 3: 28 )

2. Just as good as men: (Gen 1:31 )

3. Created to do great things as well as men: (2Cor 5:10 )

4. Precious in His sight: (1Cor 6:20 , Psa 8:5, Dt 26;18)

5. To be treated with honor, love and respect: (1Pe 3:7, 1Ti 5:2,Eph 5:3-4,Heb 13:4,Rom 12:6,Mt 7:12,Mt 22:39)

6. Just as important as men: (1Cor 12;20-21)






III. What does the bible specifically teach about domestic abuse?



A. General



Tit 1:7
Ezek 7:11
Obad 10
Gen 6:11-13

1 Tim 3:2
Joel 3:19
Hab 2:17
Ezek 28:16

Psa 11:5-6
Amos 3:10
Zeph 1:9
Isa 59:6-8






B. Act



Psa 58:2
Prov 3:31, 2:17

Psa 7:16
Prov 11:29-30

Mal 2:16
Prov 24:15






C. Victims



Psa 118:5-6
Jer 4:30-31

Psa 38:11
Jer 8:11,15,19

Psa 55:12-14,20-21
Jer 8:21-9:1




D. Abusers



Prov 24:1-2
Prov 24:2
Prov 24:8,10-12
Ezek 45:9
Mic 7:2

Psa 10:2,8-10
Psa 7:9
Prov 1;11,18
Psa 17:11/37:32
Psa 73:6

Prov 19:19 Prov 4:17
Psa 56:5-6/59:3
Jer 5:26
Psa 58:2
Psa 140:5




E. Verbal Abuse



Mt 5: 21-23
Mic 6:12
Psa 73:8 Psa 10:7

James 3:2-10
Zeph 1:9
Psa 56:5

Psa 27:12
Mal 2:17
Psa 52:2-4

Eph 6:9
Acts 4:21,29,9:1
Psa 55:9,20,21

Prov 10:11
Psa 140:9,11
Hos 12:1




F. Comfort/Promises



Psa 140:1-6
Psa 18:48
Psa 143:9-11
2Sam 22:49
2Sam 22:3

Psa 103:6
Psa 72:14
Psa 12:5, 59:2
Psa 17:4-6
Isa 54:11-17

Psa 10:17-18
Isa 60:17-18
Psa 119:134,153,157,161,166
Dt 14:29
Psa 139:19

Job 31:17
Psa 140:1
Mt 18:2-6
Hab 1:2-9
James 1:27








IV. Passages Misapplied



Negative (man’s way) in light of Positive (God’s way)



Negative (man’s way)
Positive (God’s way)

1 Cor 11:9
Gen 1:26-27, Gen 2:18-23

Eph 5:22-23
Eph 5:21,25-29,33

1 Cor 11:3,9
1 Cor 11:11:11 -12, 1 Cor 12:11 -27, Col 3:12 -17, 1 Cor 7:3, Col 3:19

Col 3:18
Col 3:19

Rom 6:19 -20, 1 Cor 6:11 , Eph 2:2
Col 3:8;15, James 1:19-20, Mk 10;42-44

Tit 3:3
Tit 3:4-5, Tit 2:11-14, 1 Pe 3:7-11

1 Pe 3:1
Rom 12:10 , 1 Pe 5:3

Tit 2:5
Tit 1:7-8

1 Ti 5:14,15
Eph 5:18, I Tim 3:3,8, 1Pe 5:2, Tit 3:2








V.The Dark Passages



Judges 19;24-25

Gen 19:8

2 Sam 13;1-21




The bible presents both the good and the bad of the people it records in the pages without condoning the evil of their actions.

to teach us:



1. not to make idols of people

2. as examples either to emulate or not in our lives

Ø 1 Cor 10:11

Ø 2 Tim 3:15-17

Ø Phip 4:3-9

Ø Rom 15:4

Man’s Way
Attribute
God
God’s Way

1k: 8:6, Ro 3:23, Ge 6:5
Holy
Ex 15:11 , Is 6:3
2Co 7:1

Ecc 3:16, Lev 19:5, Ps 32:2
Just
Dt 32:4, Ps 72:2,Ps 103:6
Dt 16:20,Ps 82:3,Pr 21:3, Isa 56:1

Mt 6:15,Mt 18:28,35, Ro 1:31, Ja 2:13
Mercy
Ne 9:17,Tit 3:5
Mic 6:8, Mt 5:7,Lk 6:36

Lk 6:32-36
Goodness
Ps 100:5,Ps 145:8-9
1th 5:5, Eph 4:32,Col 3:12,Tit 2:11-12

Mt 23:12,Jer 17:5,Pr 28:26
Sovereignty
Da 4:35
2 Co 12;9,Eph 3:16,Jn 5:5

Ps 53;1,Lk 11:39, Pr 15:2
Wisdom
Ps 104:24,Ro 11;33
Ecc 2;26,Ja 1:5,Hos 14:9

15Hn 4:20 , pr 10:12 , Ps 56:5-6
Love
Dt 33:12, Jhn 3:16
15 Hn 4;8,Is 54:5-14, Is 58:4-6

Ps 116:11, Jer 9:5, Pr 6:16-19, Mt 15:19, Ps 27:2
Truth
Heb 6:18, Ps 33:4
Ps 120:2, Pr 13:5

Gal 5:19-21
Faithful
Dt 7:9,La 3:22-23
Ex 20:14 ,Gal 5:19 -21

Ecc 7:29, Ju 3:9-10, Ps 58:3, Nu 23:19
Unchanging
James 1:17
1Co 15:10 , 2Co 12:9, 2Ti 3:16 -17

Jm 1:12-13, Jh 3:5-7, Tit 3:5, Ro 2:5-8
Righteous
Ps 32:4,Ps 15:9
2Co 7:1, Gal 2:20, Eph 2:8-9, Ta 2:17-18, Lk 18:14

Part VI: God’s Attributes







Part VII Who Jesus is;

I. God: John 1:1-3, Col 1:16,17, John 20:28, John 10:29-31 Col 2:9, Tit 2:13

II. What He did: Isa 53:4-5, Mk 10:45, John 10:14-18, Rom 5:10 , 1Tim 2:5-6, Heb 9:14 , 1Pe 2:24 , Rev 5:9

III. What He is doing now: Heb 4:14, Heb 7:26

IV. What He will do: Php 2:9-11, Ro 14:11-12, 2Co 5:10 , Rev 20:12 -13

V. His treatment of women:

v Taught women together with men: Matt 14;21 and 15:38

v Accepted sinful women with respect: Lk 7:47, Lk 10;41, Matt 19;3-4

v Ministered to them: Lk 8;40-56

v Shows compassion: Jonh 4:5-42





IV Attributes Jesus Displayed:

v Humility: Mt 11:29, Philp 2:8

v Obedience: Jn 4:34 , John 5:30 , John 8;29

v Serve-hood: Mk 10:42-45, Lk 22:27, John 13;12-15

v Strong; Mk 11:15-18

v Love: Lk 8;43-48

v Righteousness; Lk 1:35, John 6;69, Heb 7:26

v Truth: John 14:6, Rev 3;7





VI. Example of Submission in the Trinity



v Phil 2;6-8

v Ma 26:39-42

v Ma 20:27-28

v Jo 4:34



VII. Power of words in light of Domestic abuse

A. Gives Life: Prov 18:21

B. Gives Death: Prov 18:21 , Matt 5:21 -22

C. Christians Responsibility: Phil 1;27, Prov 12:6, 1Pe 2:23 , Mt 12:36 -37, Eph 4:29 -30, Ja 3:18 , 1Co 6;19, Prov 10:19

D. Forgiveness and Grace: Eph 4:32-5: 2, Col 4:6, Matt 18;21-35, Rom 12:9-21

E. Hypocritical: James 3:3-12

F. Perverse: Prov 2:12 , Matt 15:19

G. Seductive: Prov 2:16, Prov 6:2-3, Prov 7:21

H. Lying: Prov 6:16-19, Prov 17:7, Prov 12:17-19, Eph 4:25

I. Evil: Prov 16:28, Jer 17:9, Prov 17:4

J. Causes Problems: Prov 17:19, Prov 25:9-10, James 4:1-2, Prov 18-8, Prov 26:20-21, Prov 22;10, Prov 29:8

K. Flattery: Prov 28:23, 1Thes 2:4, Prov 29:5

L. Speaking in haste: Prov 29:20, Mt 12:36

M. Reveals true self; Lk 6:43-46

N. Speaking over abundantly: 1Co 14:19

O. Empty Words: 1Cor 13:1





VIII. What is Love?



1. 1Cor 13:1-7



Man’s Way God’s Way

V-4B V-4A

V-5B V-5A

V-6A V-7





2. Sermon on the Mount: Matthew Chapter 5

RD. Matthew Chapter 5:1-12







3. Ten Commandments: Exodus Chapter 20



Man’s Way God’s Way

Worship/Serve Self V-3. Worship/Serve God



Making Idols V-6. No Idols



Curse God by V-7. Not Curse God in any Form

Their actions/words against their love ones



By their violence of words/actions to their love V-8. Keep one day special to the Lord

Ones desecrates God’s Special Day



Dishonor their parents and the parents of their V-12. Honor thy father/mother

Loved one by their violence of speech/action





4. Fruit of the Spirit: Galatians 5:16-26



Man’s Way God’s Ways

V-19. Adultery

Fornication V-22. Love

Uncleanness Joy

Lasciviousness Peace



V-20. Idolatry Long Suffering

Witchcraft Gentleness

Hatred Kindness

Strife Goodness

Jealousies Faith



Wrath V-23. Meekness

Divisions Temperance (Self Control)

Heresies



V-21. envy

Murder

Drunkenness

Reveling





See also: James 3:13-18

Romans 6:20-23

Romans 7:4-6

Ephesians 5:3-14

Romans 1:29-30

Matthews 5:19

Jer. 14:10





Man’s Way God’s Way

Kill their loved ones V-13. Thou Salt not kill

With their violent words and actions



Committing adultery by taking the V-14. Thou Shalt not commit adultery

Love of violence instead of being faithful

To their loved ones



Stealing from them by your words/actions V-15. Thou Shall not steal

Their God’s given special, God-given

Charge to you to treat them as his priceless/

Wondrous/awesome gift to you and you alone



By your violent words/actions V-16. Thou Shall not bear false witness

Making the promises you made to them against thy neighbor

Before God null and void



By your desires for someone better or for a V-17. Thou shall not covet

Personal slave sealed/witnessed by your

Violent words/actions



VIV. Prevent domestic abuse



1. BEFORE:

Teaching children the word of God from birth

2Tim 3:15 -17, Prov 22:6, Psa 119:9



The church to provide good role models

Titus 2:2:2-4





2. AFTER:

The abuser to seek repentance

2Cor 7:9-10, Lk 7:47 , Acts 8:24



The abuser to seek forgiveness

1John 1:9, Isa 55:7, Prov 28:13, Acts 8:22 , Mt 6:22, Ps 32:5

The abuser to change to please God first

1Thes 2:4, 1Thes 4:1, Heb 13:16, Psa 1:1-6, Lk 11:24-26



The abuser to separate for a time from their victim(s)

1Cor 7:11



The abuser to place themselves under accountability

James 5:16-20, Heb 3:12-14, Heb 13:17 , 1Thes 5:12 , 1Ti 5:17 , 1Cor 5:1, 2Cor 5:1-11, Gal 6:2



Yet the abuser may have been truly repentant, truly seeking forgiveness, truly changed God’s way (2Cor 5:17 ) truly placed themselves under the accountability and discipline of the church. YET SIN HAS ITS CONSEQUENCES:



1PE 4:17-18, ISA 59:18, JER 17:10, 1 TI 5:24, PSA 62:12, ROM 2:6, GAL 6:7-8,HEB 12:16-17



3. For the victim concerning the option of divorce

PSA 97:19,97-105, 2TIM 3:15 -17, Prov 3:5-6, Psa 119:7




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William Morales

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